today, i got accused of being anti-relationship. well, it’s actually not the first time this has come up, but i figured that after the triple latte that i had this afternoon, i am ready to take this one on. actually, i’ll take it on after i get back from trader joe’s.
ok i got back from the joe’s and made dinner and went to sleep and woke up and now i have to go to work. that triple latte yesterday kicked my ass, it felt like being on the tailend of a massive coke binge, without any of the associated euphoria. luckily, it went away. and, unlike coke, i did not feel like doing up another triple latte to stave off the imminent end of the buzz. i think the effects had something to do with low blood sugar, because after i ate i felt worlds better.
ok, i don’t have time to get into this right now, but here’s a fairly succinct version of my “anti-relationship” stance. i am not a believer in the primacy of a “relationship” in the overall makeup of a person’s happiness. having a relationship does not necessarily contribute to a person’s happiness any more than a whole number of other aspects in a person’s life. and it contributes nothing, or detracts from, a life that is otherwise out of balance.
here’s where the anti comes in, and having been there myself, i know something of what i am talking about. there is a tendency to allow yourself to feel miserable about not being in a relationship. or not being able to make an otherwise fatally flawed one work. or in staying in a relationship because it is noble to work on it, because relationships are “hard work”.
i am also accused of being “hard-hearted”, usually when i say stuff like, “get over it, there are plenty of other tasty (chicks or dudes) out there, and you’ll find someone you get along with”. this comes from going through several breakups where the world was probably going to come to an end, and i was never going to be involved with anyone again, and i was doomed to an eternity of miserableness. none of these things in fact occurred.
one last note: i am pretty sure that the term “soulmate” is a creation of the same people who came up with the “three months salary guideline”, or some other fucker who wants me to feel that it’s not authentic love if i don’t invest everything i have spiritually and financially in binding myself to life with someone else. OR ELSE.
ok that wasn’t the most eloquent or concise treatise on love, maybe i’ll try again sometime. now i’m late for work.
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